Conscious communication is about being mindful of the way we communicate with others. It is about being present. It involves active listening, speaking with intention, and being aware of the impact our words, and even body language, have on others. Here are some tips for practicing conscious communication in our daily lives:
1. Listen actively:
When someone is speaking to you, give them your full attention. Avoid interrupting or thinking about your response while they are talking. Simply listen and stay focused on what they are saying. Stay present!
2. Speak with intention:
Before speaking, take a moment to consider what you want to say and how you want to say it. The reciever will know you are taking your words into consideration, and will find comfort that you were simply actively listening and not worrying about your next quick response. Be mindful of your tone, and body language if in-person. Body language is part of the communication process!
3. Use "I" statements:
Instead of blaming or accusing others, use "I" statements to express how you feel. For example, say "I feel hurt when you do/say ______" (which allows for critical thinking in the other person) instead of "You always make me feel ______" (which can trigger the other person and put them into defense mode).
4. Validate others' feelings:
Acknowledge and validate others' emotions, even if you don't agree with their perspective. This makes them feel heard and like you have a genuine interest in their opinion. It also limits an argumentative conversation.
5. Practice empathy:
Try to understand where others are coming from, and see things from their perspective. This can help build a deeper connection and understanding to them and helps keep you grounded. We are all human!
6. Take responsibility:
If you make a mistake, own up to it and apologize. This can help prevent misunderstandings and build trust.
By practicing conscious communication, we can improve our relationships, reduce conflict, and create a more compassionate world. This is something that can take time to learn, and that's ok.